Marriage counselling and factors:
However the countries legal systems, traditions or cultures, marriage is a sacred union around the globe. Before marriage, when couples in love they tend to observe each others in a positive way. Or at least ignore their differences. Once the wedlock is locked, couples take off their glasses. The wider the gap between their cultures, habit, backgrounds, and mindsets they start to see the differences and incompatibilities and most likely the relationship will turn into conflict. Statistically speaking, in UK up to 10% of the newly wed couples divorce within the first 3 years of their wedding.
Men Vs Woman:
Biologically speaking, women and men brains and functionality are different. Men tend to use their left brain -which is rational and analytical- more then the right brain -which is visual and deals with feelings and emotions. many men do not have the cerebral ability to put their feelings into words as easy as women. Women tend to use their right brain more, however It is the women whose left side brain – which is the centre of communication and expression – links better with right side brain – which is the feeling and emotions – this gives women the ability to simultaneously use both parts of the brain. This is what makes a women far better in expressing and communicating feelings than a men.
Many Men, in contrast can’t use both sides of the brain simultaneously and this what limit men to express their feelings and emotions . Instead of talking emotionally, men think, because they are not wired to access their feelings and emotions as easily as women.
Beyond the biological and physiological differences between men and women what are the factors that sustain long term relationships and marriages and what are the factors that lead to to separation an divorce?
Counselling psychology:
Counselling psychology science deals with marriage and relationship issues. When a marriage relationship is not working counsellors can identify the symptoms of the issues and suggest therapy solutions to both woman and man to resolve the conflict.
Factors the effect marriage relationship:
Factor 1: Money; According to an article published in the UK National Office of Statistics the rate of divorce slightly drop dawn during the recession time. This explains that the economic and financial settings of the married couples has big affect on the relationship.
Factor 2: Social Networks and modern communication technologies; has big effects on the marriages in positive or negative ways. Family, conflicts within minutes get reflected on social networks and become public. Just on TV and in courts lot of disputes between couples refer to social networks. The publishing of family issues publicly was accessible only to celebrities and famous people, nowadays family issues’ could go public within a minute even in the most remote place in the world. Social networks offers another way of having affairs, interference of an x partner, other family members intrusion,spying on each others privacy, and losing trust. In the recent years, 34% of UK married couples divorce in their 20th anniversary of marriage in comparison to the low rate of the late 1990s. This explains the effects of the technology on the society. Literally; all problems and conflicts that married couples used to have during their marriage inside their home now because of the technology the conflicts go public therefore the traditional techniques of marriage reconciliation are no longer valid.
Factor 3: Incompatibilities or irreconcilable differences; may be you already heard it so many times on TV on the social networks, celebrities divorcing on the grounds of incompatibility or irreconcilable differences grounds. Which obviously covers everything from habits, cultures, religions, sexuality as we mentioned earlier.
Counselling psychology discipline has witnessed lot of developments in the recent years to understand the the current evolution of societies in virtual and real worlds. The same way that the technology has effected the marriages negatively it could be used in a positive way to sustain the marriages and relationship to last for ever.
If you would like to avoid ending your marriage or if you are already having problems with your marriage and you are looking for a counselling psychologist who has more than 20 years of experience in marriage and relationship counselling. A counsellor who understands very well the effects of the backgrounds, the psychology of man and woman and and is up to date with the effects of technology and social networks on married couples then why don’t you drop us message at
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